Episode 35
feed yourself beauty
When we pour a little bit of ourselves into the world, and then we pump, we get water. But a dry pump yields nothing.
Mike Sowden's "Everything is Beautiful" Substack can be found here:
Transcript
I've been spending time with a writer who is writing a
Unknown:substack called Everything is Amazing. The focus at the moment
Unknown:is color and the way we perceive it and the way we interact with
Unknown:it and whatever else seems interesting. The beauty is not
Unknown:about the color, the beauty is about the nourishment of
Unknown:thinking about the color. I'm told not everyone's brain works
Unknown:like this. That some brains don't thrive on new and
Unknown:interesting, intricate information that connects us to
Unknown:the world around us. But a lot of us do. And even those of us
Unknown:who don't generally or always thrive on it might thrive on it,
Unknown:sometimes. We might. Worth finding out. There is, in fact,
Unknown:wonder and beauty everywhere. And the thing about that wonder
Unknown:and beauty is that it keeps me... it keeps me glad that I'm
Unknown:making the world a better place to be. Keeps me glad that I'm
Unknown:making the world a better place for every one; it keeps me glad
Unknown:to be glad. And that is absolutely critical to good
Unknown:leadership and good ethics because it demands so much of
Unknown:us. It demands so much of us to be out front or beside or behind
Unknown:or wherever you lead from. It demands so much of us, it asks
Unknown:so much of us to make the right decision to be the good example.
Unknown:Parents have no idea how much burden they're putting on their
Unknown:children, when they tell them they have to set a good example
Unknown:for someone else who might not be that far away from them and
Unknown:is almost certainly poking their buttons. Also, parents are
Unknown:terrible at setting good examples, unless they are very,
Unknown:very conscious, because see, all of the leadership in our world
Unknown:is subject to the same basic humanity that we are, we are all
Unknown:basically human, we are all basically tempted by things that
Unknown:would make life easier. At least in the moment,
Unknown:at least a little bit of relief, at least a little bit of rest in
Unknown:the chaos, in the stress in the desperate clawing of the world,
Unknown:at our flesh.
Unknown:And at the same time. And at the same time we have so much we
Unknown:each have so much somehow we have wisdom or experience, we
Unknown:have street credibility or we have college degrees or maybe
Unknown:both. We know the rhythms of the place that we spend the most
Unknown:time the rise and fall of the tide perhaps or the rise and
Unknown:fall of the sun, the texture of grass or different concretes and
Unknown:asphalts underfoot. The feeling of stepping on shards of glass
Unknown:and pulling them incompletely loose. The different ways our
Unknown:tires interact with the surfaces under us rolling around on dirt,
Unknown:rolling around on a bed or a sheet or a meadow. staring at
Unknown:the sky or staring at the ceiling or staring at a corner
Unknown:or staring at a leaf or bird. I find solace in nature. I know
Unknown:this is not true for everyone. But also I find solace in the
Unknown:textures of silk and linen. texture of cotton, the
Unknown:complicated story of cotton. Every one of these little things
Unknown:is Beauty to me. Every one of these little things, if I
Unknown:remember can be my nourishment can feed me, even if it's just
Unknown:enough to get the pump going again, even if it's just enough
Unknown:to prime it. There's this story that goes around periodically
Unknown:that lives in several places on the internet. About a well. it's
Unknown:in the middle of the desert. It's far from any other source
Unknown:of water. sometimes it's in the mountains, far from any other
Unknown:sources of water there. No streams nearby no oases. Just
Unknown:this this one place and it is far, it is far from everything
Unknown:else that could be water. It's a well and under the cover of the
Unknown:well which is quietly marked there's a single cup with water
Unknown:and a little card of instructions and the card of
Unknown:instructions says if you drink This water, there won't be any
Unknown:left for you or anyone else. But if you have trust in the way the
Unknown:pumps work in these instructions and the people who have come
Unknown:before you, in the possibilities in the magic of existing in this
Unknown:world, that pour this cup of water down into the pump to
Unknown:prime it, and then start pumping. And when you do, you
Unknown:will have as much water as you need as much water as you can
Unknown:drink. And the last thing you need to do before you leave, is
Unknown:fill this cup again and leave it here under this cover. So the
Unknown:next traveler can also prime the pump. Some people make this into
Unknown:a big Christian allegory, but I don't think we need to. I think
Unknown:it's complete just the way it is. We all have internal pumps,
Unknown:things in us that allow us to bring ourselves into connection
Unknown:with the things that will nourish us that will allow us to
Unknown:continue to do the important work that we do, to run our
Unknown:companies to engage with our families to live in the world to
Unknown:exist. And all of us have moments, people places,
Unknown:experiences, where we have to decide whether we're just going
Unknown:to drink the water that's in our hand. It's warm, it's a little
Unknown:brackish. But you know, it's wet. And it's here. Or whether
Unknown:we're going to pour that cup down into the wall and start
Unknown:pumping. And I tell you, every time I hang on to that cup,
Unknown:staring at it, wondering what I should do, whether this is the
Unknown:time that I need to drink this water, and hope that things are
Unknown:different. Or whether I should pour it down the well every time
Unknown:I hang on to that cup. Things get worse every single time. And
Unknown:every time I take a deep breath, pour the water into the well.
Unknown:Everything opens up. I don't know what that's about. It's
Unknown:bigger than me. It's more complicated than me it is
Unknown:physics. And also it is not physics. It is something else.
Unknown:Because obviously, I'm not always talking not usually
Unknown:talking not mostly talking about actual water in actual wells.
Unknown:Although we do have an actual water problem in this world. And
Unknown:we are going to have to come to terms with it. Basically
Unknown:immediately. But if we're not talking about actual water, then
Unknown:we're also not talking about the same kind of physics. We're
Unknown:talking about a physics that most of us do not understand
Unknown:cannot grasp. All we know is that when we pour a little bit
Unknown:of ourselves into the world, not enough to kill us.
Unknown:When we pour a little bit of ourselves into the world, and
Unknown:then we pump we get water but a dry pump yields nothing. So feed
Unknown:Feed yourself beauty, feed yourself pleasure. Do not be
Unknown:yourself beauty.
Unknown:afraid of the pleasure that you need to stay in the world.
Unknown:Because you staying in the world, while it's not the only
Unknown:way for things to get better, it is certainly one way for things
Unknown:to get better for you and for everyone else. So feed yourself